Six Absolute Grief and Loss Healing Questions to Ask Yourself

How to best begin your unique and personal healing journey must be given essential and serious considerations! There are six critical, must-ask, questions you should ask!

1- How can you provide the most comprehensive healing experience possible for you? It is up to you if it is to be. Thinking and hoping others will or even can cure your sad is me – is fruitless. Arising from the bed of awful sorrow and nurturing new hope and joy isn’t a casual walk in the park. To acquire clarity and a clear understanding about your grief and finding sustained purpose and peace in your life isn’t easy.

“Look well into thyself. There is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou will always look there”. ~Marcus Aurelius (121-180)

You need to be about going beyond being emotionally consumed and physically weak, and from surviving to thriving. The challenge is to be a survivor and overcome your loss and transform yourself into a new whole person. It will require of you a comprehensive constant effort. Brainstorm the actions you must take to relieve your grief and start healing. Then consistently put these dependable actions in place.

2- How can you best promote health and wellbeing for your whole body and mind at the deepest level possible? Because of your terrible grief and loss happening, probably one of the most difficult challenges you will face will be to determine how to best promote health and wholeness to your body and mind at the deepest level possible. Because of the uniqueness of your personal grief happening there is not one cure-all formula. Perhaps you are uncertain how to proceed. Maybe you feel helpless and hopeless. Possibilities of ever having happiness again may appear unattainable. Yet, you have not lost all the character traits that make you – you. These traits make you powerful and strong.

“Grieving is a working out of the blockage of the emotions and the mind.” ~John-Roger

Deep within you is undiscovered unused strength. Now is the time to dig deeper than ever before for the how to promote your health of body and mind.

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” ~Lao Tzu

Pick out three or four actions that will bring you new hope and wholeness. Be diligent and do these chosen actions every day.

3- What actions are essential to bring you inner harmony, peace, and balance. After a grief happening it is important to examine what if any physical and emotional conditions can or cannot be overcome. It is absolutely necessary to determine what you have the strength and energy to do to begin your healing journey. Baby steps may be all you do in the beginning. The key is – some action is necessary on your part; a lifelong detour of doing nothing will not sustain restoration of happiness and healing.

“Whatever is in me is stronger than what is out there to defeat me.” ~Caroline Myss

Inner harmony, peace and balance is where strength is generated. Life has dealt you a unique hand of grief cards; search diligently for inner harmony.

4- How can you quietly but purposely work “under the radar” and quietly heal yourself from the inside out? Many who have experienced shattering grief and loss quietly start on a wholesome amazing grief journey. They do it under the radar. That is to say they do it quietly but powerfully. You see, when it boils down to it, life begins with you. Power to heal begins with you.

“What you focus on expands.” ~Oprah Winfrey

Take time to decide what your resolve will be, how you will do it, and when you will do it. Keep telling yourself you can start healing and quietly take the actions necessary to stop grieving and start healing. You can begin healing from within. You have more strength than you might have ever used before your grief experience. Search within until you find that empowerment. You can!

5- What can and will you do to clear your mind, remove clutter, relax, and gently cleanse you of anxiety as you find new purpose and uplifting empowerment? A pity party is a usual result of unwanted awful grief and loss. Feeling sorrow for the grief happening in your life is a normal response. Yet, it is essential for you to concentrate on all the positive character traits you still have, and not on the negative.

“It is a human tendency to look outside ourselves for recognition and approval. But as you’ve seen, when you do that, you are living from outside in. In the long run you’ll be dissatisfied. Letting love lead is living from the inside out. That’s the way to true fulfillment.” ~ John-Roger

Center your thoughts and efforts on what you can do – not on limitations you might have as a result of your grief. Be kind to your feelings and gently discard your unique personal anxieties.

6- How Well Do You “Know Thyself”? If I were to pick my 6 all-time favorite movies, certainly, “The Matrix” would be selected. I clearly remember the scene where The Oracle, asks Neo if he thinks he is, “The One.” At that moment, she points to a plaque above the doorway that reads, “Temet Nosce” which is Latin for, “know thyself.” You see, Neo had the gift, but he doubted himself. He expected, “The One,” to be someone else. To add clarity… decipher the name, “Neo,” and you get, “One.” His destiny was in his name and he couldn’t see it. Often, that is the case with grief stricken people, they fail to realize who they are. As painstaking as it may be, in your misery and sorrow, resourceful empowerment lies within your inner-self. Often it is the case, only when you experience unwanted horrendous grief and loss do you discover the untapped reservoir of strength within. You can reconcile your grief and find new purpose and peace! If you will look within and know thyself!

Bad News: Baseball Has Problems – Good News: All Solutions Are Known And Available

Field of Dreams, the fantasy movie, had a mysterious voice saying, “If you build it – he will come.” “Shoeless” Joe Jackson would return with his talented friends to show fans the way his generation played baseball. Sorry, Joe ain’t coming back. Instead, over the past half-century we have been warned by Hall of Fame professionals at every level of the Game, how they feared it was falling into disrepair. Hitter-Ted Williams, Pitcher-Bob Feller, Manager-Earl Weaver, General Manager- Branch Rickey, and Owner-Bill Veeck, along with many others, wrote books, articles, and have been quoted about their concerns. College Baseball Hall of Fame coaches, Skip Bertman – LSU, and Ron Fraser – UofM, the teachers, taught us in print and by photo how to employ the proper techniques. What all these men brought to aspects of the Game they lived and loved, is still relevant today. Their warnings, and instructions, were not heeded. The dumbing-down continues. Like Elvis, common sense has left the building.

The solutions for many current problems, on and off the fields of Major League Baseball have been known for over 100 years. How MLB implements play, promotion, and presentation of our National Pastime is what it is – past time to reconsider and redirect their efforts to benefit, not damage, the Game’s rich history and future progress. There are no unknowns. NONE! Everything has been seen and done before.

As predicted by the professionals, questions have been raised about what is now happening. Find answers, with CHARTS, to indicate where we were YESTERDAY, are TODAY, and should be TOMORROW. Baseball’s numbers are what they are, facts. Facts are stubborn things.

There are a host of things to discuss, including the All-Star Game, Playoffs, World Series, Designated Hitter, and Saves, to name a few. Reviewed are the rules, assumptions, suppositions, and definitions dominating today’s Game. Let us not forget the years spent willfully, painfully, ignoring use of steroids.

What’s going on out there?

· MLB teams are immersed in an epidemic of strikeouts, which have increased for 11 consecutive years. At the current rate, 2017, will be the 12th straight year and the AL average per team will exceed 1300 for the first time.

· Players have forgotten, or never learned, some of the proper techniques of base running and fielding. Most baserunners run hard only when deemed necessary; are constantly looking for the ball as they’re running; take bad leads off the bases, especially 1st base; and repeatedly violate the unwritten Rules that have been accepted forever. Unwritten Rule #1: Don’t assume anything!

The infielders biggest fault is that they are always reaching out to tag runners, instead of taking the glove and ball directly to the base whenever possible and allowing the runners to tag themselves out. Again, 1st base is the biggest problem because of how the first-basemen position themselves when holding runners on, which makes it harder to take their gloves to the base on pick-offs from the pitcher. The main reason they sometimes succeed is that the runner’s leads are so bad.

· Batters evidently don’t practice the skills needed to defeat the drastic defensive infield shifts currently being employed. Managers have let bunting slowly, surely, go the way of the dodo bird, partly because their batters have never learned the how, when, and where, art of the bunt to make it a useful weapon.

· All involved have attached a completely foreign mind-set to all aspects of pitching. The suppositions and definitions that pervade pitching have succeeded in lowering expectations to levels that would never have been accepted by previous generations.

· The 44-year experiment of the Designated Hitter has failed to deliver the expected superior offensive production. Check the Stats. In addition, having half of the teams playing the same game using different Rules is, on its face, non-productive. That’s probably why no other leagues in any sport would ever entertain the idea. The DH should be discarded at the earliest possible moment.

· MLB is constantly complaining about the length of their games and has implemented several Rule changes to speed them up. Unfortunately, they have not allowed their umpires to strictly enforce all Rules currently on the books. Until they do, there can be no appreciable change in the pace of games.

· MLB also needs to take a hard look at how their games are televised. The dominant view is from behind the pitcher showing just the pitcher and catcher on defense, plus the batter and umpire. There are 7 more defensive fielders. How are they positioned to defend the current batter, and if there are runners on base, what are they doing on the pitch? The best view for a baseball game is from behind the plate, that’s why those tickets cost more and the score keeper, broadcast crews, other media, and owners watch from there. The TV viewer should be able to see everything they see – as it happens – not from replays.

The issues concerning those on the field of play can and should be addressed, from youth leagues on up through the Minor Leagues, prior to arriving in the Major Leagues. The evidence is in – they aren’t. The issues concerning those from the front office to the top of the management pyramid also have hard work ahead to restore confidence that the Game is headed in the right direction and present it in a way that attracts, not discourages, future fans.

Many have drawn their own conclusions about what could be described as the Dead Brain Era. Agree, or disagree. Fine! You may have your own questions, or better answers to ones being asked. Great! There’s an oft-repeated observation about baseball these days, “That’s just the way they do things now.” That “now” way is real, is wrong, and no one cares it’s wrong. Worse, no one cares that no one cares. If it matters to you, in these days of social media there are many ways the powers in charge can be influenced to change course. It won’t be easy, but please, let them know your opinions. They count!